I wonder if REJECTION is a state Jesus wants us to first heal from completely so that when we follow him radically and experience rejection (even as He did) we will no longer be wounded by it..because we will be so sure of our calling I. Christ that no matter who rejects us.. we can still live and move and have our being in Him.. perfect love for ourselves and our enemies
Jennifer I honestly hadn't thought of that, but it makes so much sense because fear of rejection kept me silent about my faith for quite some time. Breaking down this stronghold has definitely given me more courage than I've ever had. To write boldly and be authentic in my faith journey. Thank you so much for giving this insight and for reading.
I could have written this myself. I’m currently in the breaking up stage with believing the lies of rejection…it’s a long arduous and painful process. “It’s just me and God now” I have thought at every single rejection. My last article is about the grief of my most recent rejection. Now, I must let myself grieve and then work on my connection to myself. I’ve known this for a long time…I was just never alone enough to actually get to know her. Maybe God allowed this because He can see who I really am, apart from other people and wants me to see it too. He loves me and thinks I am far more than adequate.
Leslie I’m so glad you shared this. Thank you for reading. Sounds like we find ourselves in a similar season. It has been incredibly painful, emotional, but healing. I began framing all the rejections (or what I was perceiving as rejection) as His protection. Stay the course, lean in, He wants to heal us. 🤍🙏🏻🕊️ He’s still putting me back together too. 🥹
This is incredibly heavy, and it takes an immense amount of courage to put it into words.
We talk a lot about romantic breakups, but losing a best friend is a completely different kind of silent grief. There is no standard script or social rule for it, so we often just end up carrying the weight of the silence.
Friendships are built on shared seasons, and when those seasons change, the foundations often change with them. It is painful to look at someone who knew your past and admit that you are no longer heading in the same direction. We often try to force things to work out of pure nostalgia, but that usually just leads to resentment. Choosing to step away from a connection that can no longer carry your weight isn't a failure. It is just the hard, quiet work of protecting your own peace and respecting what the friendship used to be.
Thank you for having the guts to open up this conversation. This is exactly the kind of raw, honest writing that makes your stack so special.
Thank you for your thoughtful comments. You are so right about friendships, the nostalgia and history were exactly what I was holding on to and what made it so painful, but as you said I had to protect my peace and make the decision she couldn’t. I really had to trust God that this was His protection. Once I did, I had the freedom of knowing where our relationship stood, but it definitely didn’t negate the grief and hurt. Sometimes friends are closer than family, and when you lose them it can be incredibly painful.
I’m glad my stack and mission are fulfilling its intended purpose for you, these are the types of comments I pray for. So thank you 🙏🏻🤍
Daniela, thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing that vulnerable part of your journey. It is truly an honor to be part of your community here. Your observation about friends being closer than family really hit home for me, and I so appreciate your honesty in navigating that grief while trusting in something greater. I am so glad I found your Substack,k and I really hope we can become helpful writing buddies on this platform. Your insights are a breath of fresh air, and I am looking forward to following along with everything you share.
Thank you so much for saying that! I really appreciate the encouragement. I really do love our Substack community and would be happy to connect and help each other with our writings. I look forward to reading and following your journey as well!
Oh wow! I’m speechless. What a powerful piece of writing, Daniela. I think this needs to be published to a wider audience, maybe a book? I will be thinking about this for a very long time. I’m so moved in my heart, as someone who has experienced rejection. So often we and others pander to it, yes, like a friend. You have shone a light on the true nature of rejection. Bless you, bless you, bless you, my friend😘🙏🫶
Rebecca your comment means so much to me. Thank you and I'm so glad it was able to give you a different perspective on how rejection can feel like a familiar friend. Thank you for reading and being here. Sending hugs!
Thank you for your courage and transparency. I could relate to all the feels in this post; I have had breakups with family and friends, some long-term, and then the emotional/spiritual breakups like this with people-pleasing, fear of man (people's opinions), and a need for affirmations/feedback that I was on the "correct" path. I am so glad that you have a stronger, deeper assurance in your relationship with the Father. I love this; GOD knows what we need when we need it. I had to also stop comparing myself with other believers. Abba often shows me it's not a race for the swift; it's about building muscle for endurance. We are in this for the long haul, and He is not done with us yet; in many ways we are accelerating and getting into the best gear. I pray that you soar on the wings of His glory and keep dreaming BIG!
Thank you so much for reading and your thoughtful comment. My hope was that people would relate to it and I'm happy to read it landed for you. God is so good, and I'm so grateful I've turned to him. I'm glad to hear He has helped you through this as well. Sending hugs!
This was powerful. The way you personified rejection as a lifelong companion captured how an old wound can begin to feel like protection simply because it is familiar.
“The shield was the stronghold” stopped me. So often we build walls to prevent another hurt, only to discover those same walls are keeping love, truth, and healing from reaching us. I also appreciated that you did not present restoration as a sudden victory of willpower. You described the slower work of lamenting, praying, renewing your mind, and allowing God to uncover what had been hiding beneath the noise.
The transformation of silence was especially beautiful. What rejection once used as evidence that you were unwanted became the quiet place where God reminded you that you were made, known, and loved by Him. Thank you for sharing this with such honesty. Someone who still believes they are too damaged or too far gone is going to recognize hope here.
Grumpy Grandma thank you so much for your comment. First, I love your name! The revelation of the shield stopped me too. It's amazing how He gives us the eyes to see when we're ready. I had no idea how deep this one was for me until there were no more distractions. My hope and goal of my Substack is to reach those who may feel too far gone, so thank you for saying that. Sending hugs!
This is awesome. I can relate to a lot of what you shared, but, as you so eloquently expressed, I won't give Rejection the satisfaction of going over past hurts.
Here's to a future full of the Acceptance of our Father!
Thank you for sharing the quotes that impacted you and thank you for reading. The shield was the stronghold was quite the revelation for me once He gave me the eyes to see it clearly.
This is so good! I'm going to read back through this several times. The lies we believe!
With me, it was shame. They both tell the same lies. But then, God used my shame to reach people on the street. I could approach them honestly because of my past. And they accepted me. God used my shameful past fir his glory!
Hi Rosemary! Thank you for sharing about your shame and how you were able to use that experience for good. I'm beginning to see how He's doing that in my life as well. Thank you for reading. Sending hugs!
Beautiful…I so Love your vulnerability and honesty Daniela. You are truly blessed, called and gifted to share your story. So proud of you and glad we are connected.
Awe thank you so much Iona! I'm glad we are connected as well. I've been a little distant on here lately. I appreciate you and how you're encouraging us women. Sending you a big hug, and grateful for your encouragement.
Thank you so much for sharing, its amazing how someone else life mirrors yours this was a great read and a great lead way for me to breakup with Rejection.
So powerful. Now I want to write one about Fear. That was my companion for a long time.
Thank you for reading 🙏🏻 Fear would be a great one to write on, a companion to rejection for sure and very relatable. 🤍
Yes Daniela, please write about fear🙏🫶
Same!! I will be waiting for yours.
Probably won’t have time! But if I find it…..I have a few other articles I need to write plus my fiction writing needs edits this weekend so…🤷♀️😊
I love this. It’s so honest.
Thank you so much for reading! I'm glad it spoke to you :)
I wonder if REJECTION is a state Jesus wants us to first heal from completely so that when we follow him radically and experience rejection (even as He did) we will no longer be wounded by it..because we will be so sure of our calling I. Christ that no matter who rejects us.. we can still live and move and have our being in Him.. perfect love for ourselves and our enemies
Jennifer I honestly hadn't thought of that, but it makes so much sense because fear of rejection kept me silent about my faith for quite some time. Breaking down this stronghold has definitely given me more courage than I've ever had. To write boldly and be authentic in my faith journey. Thank you so much for giving this insight and for reading.
I could have written this myself. I’m currently in the breaking up stage with believing the lies of rejection…it’s a long arduous and painful process. “It’s just me and God now” I have thought at every single rejection. My last article is about the grief of my most recent rejection. Now, I must let myself grieve and then work on my connection to myself. I’ve known this for a long time…I was just never alone enough to actually get to know her. Maybe God allowed this because He can see who I really am, apart from other people and wants me to see it too. He loves me and thinks I am far more than adequate.
Leslie I’m so glad you shared this. Thank you for reading. Sounds like we find ourselves in a similar season. It has been incredibly painful, emotional, but healing. I began framing all the rejections (or what I was perceiving as rejection) as His protection. Stay the course, lean in, He wants to heal us. 🤍🙏🏻🕊️ He’s still putting me back together too. 🥹
This is incredibly heavy, and it takes an immense amount of courage to put it into words.
We talk a lot about romantic breakups, but losing a best friend is a completely different kind of silent grief. There is no standard script or social rule for it, so we often just end up carrying the weight of the silence.
Friendships are built on shared seasons, and when those seasons change, the foundations often change with them. It is painful to look at someone who knew your past and admit that you are no longer heading in the same direction. We often try to force things to work out of pure nostalgia, but that usually just leads to resentment. Choosing to step away from a connection that can no longer carry your weight isn't a failure. It is just the hard, quiet work of protecting your own peace and respecting what the friendship used to be.
Thank you for having the guts to open up this conversation. This is exactly the kind of raw, honest writing that makes your stack so special.
Thank you for your thoughtful comments. You are so right about friendships, the nostalgia and history were exactly what I was holding on to and what made it so painful, but as you said I had to protect my peace and make the decision she couldn’t. I really had to trust God that this was His protection. Once I did, I had the freedom of knowing where our relationship stood, but it definitely didn’t negate the grief and hurt. Sometimes friends are closer than family, and when you lose them it can be incredibly painful.
I’m glad my stack and mission are fulfilling its intended purpose for you, these are the types of comments I pray for. So thank you 🙏🏻🤍
Daniela, thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing that vulnerable part of your journey. It is truly an honor to be part of your community here. Your observation about friends being closer than family really hit home for me, and I so appreciate your honesty in navigating that grief while trusting in something greater. I am so glad I found your Substack,k and I really hope we can become helpful writing buddies on this platform. Your insights are a breath of fresh air, and I am looking forward to following along with everything you share.
Thank you so much for saying that! I really appreciate the encouragement. I really do love our Substack community and would be happy to connect and help each other with our writings. I look forward to reading and following your journey as well!
So sorry that you had to go through that but grateful for the outcome! Love you ♥️
Love you my friend! 😘
Oh wow! I’m speechless. What a powerful piece of writing, Daniela. I think this needs to be published to a wider audience, maybe a book? I will be thinking about this for a very long time. I’m so moved in my heart, as someone who has experienced rejection. So often we and others pander to it, yes, like a friend. You have shone a light on the true nature of rejection. Bless you, bless you, bless you, my friend😘🙏🫶
Rebecca your comment means so much to me. Thank you and I'm so glad it was able to give you a different perspective on how rejection can feel like a familiar friend. Thank you for reading and being here. Sending hugs!
This is so powerful; I love your writing style!
Thank you for your courage and transparency. I could relate to all the feels in this post; I have had breakups with family and friends, some long-term, and then the emotional/spiritual breakups like this with people-pleasing, fear of man (people's opinions), and a need for affirmations/feedback that I was on the "correct" path. I am so glad that you have a stronger, deeper assurance in your relationship with the Father. I love this; GOD knows what we need when we need it. I had to also stop comparing myself with other believers. Abba often shows me it's not a race for the swift; it's about building muscle for endurance. We are in this for the long haul, and He is not done with us yet; in many ways we are accelerating and getting into the best gear. I pray that you soar on the wings of His glory and keep dreaming BIG!
Thank you so much for reading and your thoughtful comment. My hope was that people would relate to it and I'm happy to read it landed for you. God is so good, and I'm so grateful I've turned to him. I'm glad to hear He has helped you through this as well. Sending hugs!
Thank you too! Received hugs and sending some back to you! 🌷✨🦋
🤯wow!
This was powerful. The way you personified rejection as a lifelong companion captured how an old wound can begin to feel like protection simply because it is familiar.
“The shield was the stronghold” stopped me. So often we build walls to prevent another hurt, only to discover those same walls are keeping love, truth, and healing from reaching us. I also appreciated that you did not present restoration as a sudden victory of willpower. You described the slower work of lamenting, praying, renewing your mind, and allowing God to uncover what had been hiding beneath the noise.
The transformation of silence was especially beautiful. What rejection once used as evidence that you were unwanted became the quiet place where God reminded you that you were made, known, and loved by Him. Thank you for sharing this with such honesty. Someone who still believes they are too damaged or too far gone is going to recognize hope here.
Grumpy Grandma thank you so much for your comment. First, I love your name! The revelation of the shield stopped me too. It's amazing how He gives us the eyes to see when we're ready. I had no idea how deep this one was for me until there were no more distractions. My hope and goal of my Substack is to reach those who may feel too far gone, so thank you for saying that. Sending hugs!
This is awesome. I can relate to a lot of what you shared, but, as you so eloquently expressed, I won't give Rejection the satisfaction of going over past hurts.
Here's to a future full of the Acceptance of our Father!
Amen Lynn!! Thank you so much for reading and I'm glad it resonated. Here's to looking ahead :)
I'm in the same battle, fighting the lies the enemy yells over and over again! So dang persistent, that one!
Very very persistent! Thank you for reading Ginger and you're not alone. I'm glad it resonated. Sending hugs!
Impactful quotes: “The shield was the stronghold;” “His presence is stronger than your grip;” and “He made me just the way I am.”
Thank you for sharing the quotes that impacted you and thank you for reading. The shield was the stronghold was quite the revelation for me once He gave me the eyes to see it clearly.
This is so good! I'm going to read back through this several times. The lies we believe!
With me, it was shame. They both tell the same lies. But then, God used my shame to reach people on the street. I could approach them honestly because of my past. And they accepted me. God used my shameful past fir his glory!
Hi Rosemary! Thank you for sharing about your shame and how you were able to use that experience for good. I'm beginning to see how He's doing that in my life as well. Thank you for reading. Sending hugs!
Beautiful…I so Love your vulnerability and honesty Daniela. You are truly blessed, called and gifted to share your story. So proud of you and glad we are connected.
Awe thank you so much Iona! I'm glad we are connected as well. I've been a little distant on here lately. I appreciate you and how you're encouraging us women. Sending you a big hug, and grateful for your encouragement.
Thank you so much for sharing, its amazing how someone else life mirrors yours this was a great read and a great lead way for me to breakup with Rejection.
Hi Rebecca! Thank you so much for reading and sharing that it resonated with you. I'm glad to hear you found it helpful. Sending hugs!